Nowadays, sex toys are often used in the bedroom and play an important role in people's love life. Sex shops look bright, welcoming and are labeled as such on the outside. The time, when you had to secretly sneak through the back door to buy sex toys, is long over.
But why don't sex toys meet the sexual needs of women, when they are actually made for them?
Today, there are so many different sex toys you can buy on the market. But even though we can talk openly about sex and sex toys, dildos and vibrators still don't fit the woman's natural physiological or sexual needs. For women, there is nothing worse than to feel cold dildos and vibrators in the genital area, because they feel uncomfortable and make the pleasure disappear.
I constantly meet women who complain that sex toys don't work for them because of their unpleasant temperature.
Here are the answers:
The physiology of the woman in terms of her sexuality
Back in the days, women's sexuality was fundamentally suppressed and denied. Her only job was to satisfy her husband. Only at the beginning of the 20th century Sigmund Freud finally defined female sexuality. The New Women's Movement, which developed in the 1970s, fought for gender equality and the right of a free, personal and pleasurable sexuality.
However, sexuality still doesn't seem to be so free and pleasurable for women, because in online portals you can read that many females never or rarely experience an orgasm. But honestly, it is no wonder that so many women fake their orgasms because cold sex toys make it impossible to feel intense pleasure. They solely feel uncomfortable in the genital area.
The stages of a woman's orgasm
The sexual response cycle of women has four phases. In the first phase, also called the excitement phase, the desire for sex is enhanced by kisses, the use of sex toys, gentle massages and by touching the sensitive body parts such as breasts and the clitoris. As a result, the heart rate quickens, nipples become hardened, the blood flow to the genitals increases and vaginal lubrication begins. But in this phase, heat plays an important part for women. Cold fingers are pretty much the same turn off as cold sex toys.
During the next phase, called the plateau phase, the clitoris becomes highly sensitive and retracts under the clitoral hood and muscle tension increases. In this phase, the body reaches a certain level of sexual tension. This phase is followed by the orgasm phase in which the woman reaches the orgasm, her absolute climax. The muscles of the vagina contract at short intervals and blood pressure, heart rate, and breathing are at their highest rates. The last phase is the resolution. During resolution, the body slowly relaxes and returns to its normal level of functioning.
The secret to achieving a female orgasm
There are several ways to achieve female orgasm. Most women come to their peak by stimulating the clitoris. The clitoris is a tiny organ that contains a great concentration of nerve endings that makes it very sensitive. Another way to achieve a female orgasm is by the use of sex toys toys but only if they have a constant and lasting body-temperature.. Most of the time, men are the ones who buy toys which is why they need to know the secrets that make women cum. Some women have a harder orgasm when sex toys are used in a circular motion, others need extra fingering on top of it, and some love clitoral vibrators combined with quick tongue strokes. Most women, however, like if there is a constant rhythm to the sexual game until they reach their peak.
For a vaginal orgasm, fingers may not be sufficient, which is why dildos are often used to better stimulate those hard-to-reach pleasure points, such as the G-spot. To find the A-spot, a particularly deep penetration into the vagina is needed.